Good afternoon to you all.
It’s Monday! (I’m not sure if that exclamation mark reads excitement or dismay.) Ah, who am I kidding, we all know what it means.
At least my Monday has started off chilly and overcast with a promise of rain. Yes, I’m saying it’s a positive thing. I love waking up to the sound of rain, there’s nothing better! Truth: I’d rather stay in bed than go to work on said rainy morning, but you know what, I’m looking at this rainy Monday as a fresh start (oh ye, I’m going deep people).
Before I start on my tangent, here is some dreamy rain images for you to stare sleepily at (you can pretend it’s that spreadsheet – I won’t tell).
Ok, are you feeling calm and peaceful now? Good. Let’s start with a question.
How important is another person’s happiness to you?
Let me rephrase. How do you treat people who come across your path?
Whether it’s someone you know and love – like a family member or friend, an employee or acquaintance – when you meet and interact, you form a human connection. You see and hear one another, you open yourself up for communication and sharing. You form a connection one way or another (whether intentional or not).
This connection can be deep, meaningful and loaded with history (as you would have with a family member or close friend). This connection can also be superficial (when meeting someone new or when interacting with an employee and having to keep within certain acceptable boundaries). Regardless of whether our interactions are deep or shallow, we all leave a mark on people’s lives. It could be a good mark, bad mark or no mark at all.
Now, back to my original question: how important is another person’s happiness to you? I ask this question because I’ve been thinking a lot lately about relationships and how respect, encouragement and support fit in to that.
I’ve witnessed pretty sad occurrences over the past month. I have seen a lack of respect, a lack of genuine caring amongst people, and it makes me sad and angry. It has made me look within myself and made me question how I treat people I come across in my life.
I can speak truthfully and say that I tend to put my needs above others. I tend to live within a bubble, a “me” bubble where only I have issues and problems. People must support me. I need all the encouragement I can get. Selfish? Yes.
Unfortunately, I tend to live in my own little world much of the time, and I forget to look around me, at all the people who need my encouragement and support. I’m sure a lot of us can relate to this (oh gosh I hope so. I don’t want to be the only selfish one out there). Life gets hectic. We all have a lot on our plates, goals to achieve and dreams to make come true.
There’s nothing wrong with that. If we don’t live for our dreams, who will? Of course we need to focus on our wants and needs. But I think a lot of us (including me) can afford to take a little bit of time to step back, outside of our bubble, and look at the people we come across everyday with new-found respect and genuine care. Every person has a dream. We all have certain beliefs and values, things we find important. I believe all anybody wants is respect. Respect for who they are, their beliefs and their dreams.
I watch shows like Masterchef Australia and Jamie Oliver’s Food Revolution, and I ABSOLUTELY LOVE seeing the immediate transformation in people’s faces when they are encouraged, supported and given a chance to be true to themselves. It’s amazing what a little bit of respect, encouragement and patience can do for a person.
I believe that we are on this Earth for a reason. We are given a certain personality, gifts and talents for a reason. People come into our lives for a reason. We hold a lot of power as human beings. Our thoughts, actions and words can make or break the people around us. That’s a scary responsibility to have, but we all have it! I think we should use this power for good. I’m tired of seeing people being disrespected, put down and dreams dashed.
What are we without a good heart? God gave us a heart for a reason – to love, respect and encourage.
You may be thinking “I don’t have time for this.” “People don’t care.” “They seem fine, they don’t need my help.” I can tell you that no matter how confident or sure people may seem, they more than likely feel the same insecurities that we do, and experience the same injustice that we may experience. You’ll be surprised at how much we all have in common!
I know that I barely have time to pursue my goals and dreams, so how will I find the time to help others? We have to make the time. By helping others we will help ourselves too. We are not living on this earth in isolation. We can’t think and act in isolation. We need to react as a group of people, willing to care enough to make a change to people’s lives. Life is hard enough without the critics and haters always on our backs, don’t you agree? Offering respect, encouragement and support to others is what is needed!
Let’s think about this for a few days. Please share your thoughts! I’d love to hear what you have to say.
In my follow-up post, I’ll share some ideas on how I plan to implement this in my daily living.